Men and Child Support....What's Your View?

What do men think when losing custody of their children during a divorce or even a child born out of wedlock? Does child support become the mainline in which a man can continue his relationship with his children?
Ok…Slow you roll…don’t get your panties in a bunch here ladies!!! I am talking about men who have no problem with the laws set in place by the judicial system. The ones who want nothing more than to make sure his kids are taken care of financially! Yes…there ARE men out there like that; and they feel that women can use this system to their advantage! Now that we have that straighten out…may I continue?

Many women may feel that they are empowered by controlling the undesirable circumstances surrounding a divorce…or breakup…you choose; in order to take their exes to the bank. Some even try to control certain outcomes by using their children as collateral. However, these men think that this is an unfair advantage, especially those who have a strong connection with their children.
“How”…. you say, when they have these fair laws in place…how can it be bias to the custodial parent you might ask?

Well most reliable men might say the judicial system automatically sway towards the woman to raise the child! There’s like a “get kid free card” out there and they have no clue where to get one! Hmmm…let’s just think about that for a moment. If the man is more equipped in raising his children, shouldn’t he at least get a fair shot at getting custody of his children…press pause and marinate!

What Are Men Thinking?
Larry…Male, 42 says…“While necessary, I believe the judicial system is more favorable to women. There are many men who have no problem paying child support because they love and want the best for their children. It becomes an issue when fathers are not allowed to see their children or even communicate with them, if they're a few cents short!! It also becomes an issue, when child support is not used for the children, but to fund a certain lifestyle."

Bottom-line…These men just want fairness in monetary distribution and in sharing time with their children!! Many men say the laws are written in a way that they can no longer support themselves. I believe fairness can be achieved if we take SELF out of the equation. Create a balance that is targeted to the best interest of our children. Divorce, separation and breakups are not optimal for any family; however, I believe we can meet the needs of all concerned with love, kindness and goodness as the head of our decision making!!

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*Names used are fictitious in order keep identities private*
Disclaimer: The information in this or any other blog is based on findings on how most men feel and personal experience regarding men.